Soulshine

I’ve written about cookies before. About how crumbs don’t satisfy. About how important it is to not deny yourself happiness. Especially in love and your career. Those are the two most important things to me. So we’ve made the decision to put ourselves out there and seek the career and love we so want…

Well, I forgot to tell you how much rejection sucks. How when you try and try and it doesn’t seem to be happening… that feeling… it totally blows. Real bad.

That’s where I’ve realized how much of a choice happiness and love are. It’s easy to fall in love. REAL easy. That’s why they call it falling. Swept off your feet? You didn’t have to do anything! But anything worth having is worth working for too. And love is work. It’s like having a puppy. You’ve been thinking about finding the perfect pup for weeks, months, maybe years. You get the puppy and you buy it all the cute toys and bowls. The puppy is so sweet and playful. The puppy sleeps a lot and always wants to snuggle. You probably even think puppy breath is cute.

But then the puppy gets bigger. It’s wants to play ALL. THE. TIME. It’s hyper and pees everywhere and my god, why won’t the damn dog just sleep through the night?!? Forget happy hours and weekend trips, youve got to figure out how to take of something besides yourself. Stay with me people…

You have two options here:
1) Give the puppy away. You can’t do it, it’s not for you. Those puppy butterflies? They went out to the trash with that pee soaked rug.

2) You train the puppy. It takes a lot of work. But eventually you and the now dog are besties. The dog doesn’t chew your shoes anymore. The dog will probably even wait 12 hours for you to get home to take him on a walk. They dog likes to snuggle but knows when to give you space. Heck, the dog will even be good for the pet sitter and let you get away for a weekend now and then. And you’ll both be happy to see each other after a few days apart!

But you’d never have that dog, your best friend, without that sacrifice. Ask anyone whose had a dog, or a long term relationship, how much work does it take? A LOT. Is it worth it? Every bit.

Career, same thing. You can walk into job, but you work for your career. Everyday, push it. Harder, faster, stronger, smarter. That’s my mantra. You don’t fall into the perfect career, you create it with a lot of dedication, and probably sweat and tears. It’s takes years to build an impressive career. Why do we always hear about people who have stellar companies and sales right off the bat? Because it doesn’t happen that often! That’s why it’s news. But that doesn’t mean hard work doesn’t pay off. It does. Just takes time and a whole lot of effort.

Remember, it’s easy to give up. It’s easy to give up the dream and have an average career. It’s easy to give up on people in relationships when things aren’t perfect. Nobody writes about the people with a series of failed relationships, but those who made it work when it didnt seem possible. The people who made the choice to work hard and be successful.

That’s when you see what you’re made of. When you just gotta let your character shine through.